Individual Differences – What make up a person’s behavior?

Each person is different from another person. What we can observe is a person’s behavior – how we behave, how we talk and do something. However, what actually make up a person’s behavior conststs of several factors which are not visible.

Much like the iceberg below:

Behavior

Our knowledge and skills, attitude and values, beliefs and personality are the factors that make up our behavior. These are the reasons why we act the way we do, and why one person is different from another.

Let us go into detail on Personality factor that influences our behavior.

Personality is…

  • relatively stable across different situations;
  • enduring across time; and
  • expressed through patterns of behaviours that distinguish one person from another.

From our own observation, we can actually see / describe the personality of people close to us, as it actually relatively consistent across context.

We also normally observe that certain personality types gets along well with certain types of personality.

Personality differences, for example, can lead to interpersonal antagonism, which can stymie the formation of productive teams. However, the appropriate balance of personalities can lead to the formation of effective teams.

In the personality theories, there are 2 major approach:

  1. Nomothetic approach: This approach strongly supports the view that personalities are fixed and determined by heredity, and cannot be significantly influenced by environmental factors.
  2. Idiographic approach: This approach takes the opposite perspective – It recognizes that individuals do have unique innate charateristics, it also suggests that personality can be moulded and that both personality and behavior and influeced by specific environmental experiences.

(Organisational Behaviour, Individuals, Groups and Organisations by Ian Brooks)

There are various studies on personality, which I will share in my next post. By understanding this and how to apply this in your hiring and team development, it will greatly help you and your team to achieve better fit and becoming more productive team.

Aku Negaraku

Today I am feeling a bit patriotic.

I love my country, Malaysia.

Malaysia is great. And I believe all of us Malaysians are striving so that we can always improve and be the best version we can ever be. So that Malaysia can be the best country we can ever be.

I always believe Malaysia is the best country to live in, to build my family, to give my children the best environment to grow in.

I hope I can contribute to helping Malaysia to be better too.

When I was younger, someone said to me “Don’t ask what your country have done for you. But ask, what have you done for your country?”.

I felt that I have not achieved much in my past 35 years of life. But I hope every single step I took and will take, will be towards achieving my dreams – of contributing to Malaysia and to the Muslims all over the world. To bring up my beloved country to be the best, and to help all the Muslims wherever they are.

This has been my ambition, and it will always be.

Let’s work together to grow Malaysia together. It’s our future. It’s our children’s future.

Selamat Hari Kemerdekaan yang ke – 64, Negaraku Malaysia.

Imagine if you were an apple tree

A few years back, I used to visit counsellors to get counselling sessions. Those years were very challenging years as I was tested not only in work-related areas, but also friendships, financial and more.

The first counsellor I met, opened my eyes to the world of counselling. From that day onwards, I believe counselling plays a big role in mental and emotional health.

During the first session, one of the question that was asked to me,

“What if you were an apple tree?”

Person A came to you and water you. How would you respond?
Person B came to you and climbed you to get the apples. How would you respond?
Person C threw sticks at you to get the apples. How would you respond?

As a normal human being, of course I feel like throwing sticks back at Person C. Haha.

But, as an apple tree, our objective is actually to produce apples. So, who cares what other people do? Why do we need to retaliate or respond negatively when we perceive other people as treating us negatively? Sometimes that’s the only way that they know how to get something or to get response from us.

Person A came. We give them good apples.
Person B came. We give them good apples.
Person C came. We give them good apples.

At the time when Person D came with an axe to chop us down, Person A, B and C will inform that we produce good apples and stop us from being cut down.

This story opened my eyes. Why do we treat people like how we feel they treated us? No matter how they treat us, we should always treat them well.

Sometimes, this is easier said than done. As usual, to develop a new habit, you need to consciously make the good decision, until it comes naturally to you.

Alhamdulillah, the multiple counselling sessions I had attended over a course of few years managed to help pull me out from depression that I faced at that time.

I know, sometimes I tend to forget the teachings and reacted like any normal person would. But as always, I try to reflect back to the counselling sessions and remember all the helpful councillors.

I am grateful.

If you are constantly sad, stressed or depressed, and have never met with a counsellor before, you should.

counselling #apples #react #positive

Leadership Development

Everything I learned about leadership, I learned them hands-on.

In Venture, starting 11 years ago, until now, many things that I have learned, I learned hands-on throughout my time in Venture.

Of course, not everything is perfect. Benefits of hindsight, some decisions seem stupid too. As time goes on, I learned to grow, deal with mistakes, and always looking on the bright side on how I can use those blunders to improve. Reading a lot of books help me too.

Hands on learning is tough – You have to go through the heartaches and experience all sorts of difficulties (which, if I know how to deal with it earlier, probably would have made my life easier).

However, by learning through experience, it is much more ingrained in me instead of just learning theoretically. Insya Allah, I will remember the lessons better.

Now, we are working on developing leaders in Authentic Venture Sdn Bhd. I know how hard it is sometimes to make some tough decisions. And that is probably what other people are facing too.

We hope with more structured learning & leadership development, our team are able to do this – achieve results faster, and hopefully will help all of us in our leadership challenges. I too, am still learning, and will never stop.

Kehilangan seorang kenalan

Assalamualaikum Semua,

Hari ini saya dikejutkan dengan berita salah seorang kenalan saya telah meninggal dunia. Saya kenal dia melalui seorang kawan sebelum ini, dan dia banyak telah membantu saya selama ini.

Dia telah dimasukkan ke Hospital Kajang pada hari Rabu yang lepas dan Doktor telah mengesahkan terdapat nanah dalam otaknya. Saya pun tidak berapa tahu bagaimana kondisinya, hanya dengan khabar dari anak saudaranya.

Saya sangka dapat dipulihkan, namun, mungkin sudah tiba ajalnya. Tak sempat saya jumpa dengannya buat kali terakhir. Saya berdoa agar rohnya dicucuri rahmat dan moga dia ditempatkan di kalangan orang-orang yang beriman.

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Mari kita sama-sama sedeqahkan Al-Fatihah dan Surah Al-Ikhlas buat dia. Semoga dia ditempatkan di kalangan orang-orang yang beriman.

Berita ini adalah sebuah berita yang memang tidak disangka-sangka. Bila-bila masa akan sampai ajal kita. Adakah kita sudah bersedia untuk menemui dengan Allah, Maha Pencipta?

Gunakan masa yang kita ada utk beramal soleh. Baiki hubungan kita dengan ibu bapa, ahli keluarga, sahabat handai. Berikan bantuan kepada mereka yang memerlukan. Sedeqah amal jariah. Walaupun kita mungkin tiada apa-apa, kita bantu dengan apa yang kita ada.

Amalan Kekal Selepas Kematian
Maksudnya:
Dari Abi Huhairah RA, sesungguhnya Rasulullah SAW bersabda: Apabila seseorang anak Adam itu meninggal dunia,maka terputuslah amalannya kecuali tiga perkara: sedekah jariah, ilmu yang dimanfaatkan dengannya dan anak soleh yang mendoakan untuknya”.
Muslim, Sahih Muslim bi sharh al-Imam Muhyiddin al-Nawawi, Kitab wasiyyah, jld. 11, hlm.87.

Tempoh PKP dilanjutkan lagi

Pejam celik pejam celik, dah dekat sebulan dah Perintah Kawalan Gerakan (PKP) dijalankan di Malaysia. Kerajaan baru je umumkan hari jumaat minggu lepas yang PKP akan disambung lagi 2 minggu.

Perasaan? Saya pun tak tahulah nak cakap apa. Banyak yang terkesan dengan PKP dan masalah Covid-19 ni. Homestay saya pun kosong terus sepanjang PKP (dan besar kemungkinan akan terus berkurangan booking selagi masalah Covid-19 ni belum betul2 selesai). Bersyukur sangat kerajaan Malaysia bagi moratorium bayaran loan rumah, kalau tak, pengsan jugakla nak membayarnya 😭

Dari perkongsian Majlis Keselamatan Nasional, nampak gaya kes positif Covid-19 ni masih lebih kurang 100+.

Ni update terbaru hari ini:

Selepas PKP ni, banyak lagi nak kena replan semula. Bagaimana nak naikkan semula ekonomi negara. Bagaimana nak pastikan Covid-19 dapat dilenyapkan terus dari mukabumi ni.

Saya pun tak tahu berapa lama lagi masa yang diperlukan untuk selesaikan masalah ini. Harap-harap ekonomi Malaysia dapat melonjak balik naik semula dengan segera selepas ini.

Marilah kita berdoa agar Allah menghapuskan Covid-19 ni dari mukabumi dengan kadar segera, dan semoga ekonomi Malaysia dan dunia dapat naik semula insya Allah. Amin…

SME Graduates Program @ UKM

Hi everyone!

It has been a while since I last shared my stories here. Attending the SME Graduates Program @ UKM has inspired me to start writing (or in this case, typing) again. Hope to be more consistent after this!

Anyway, you must be wondering, what is this SME Graduates program?

Previously this program is known as SME@University. Now rebranded and taken over by HRDF. HRDF works with universities, (I joined the UKM session since it is soooo near to my house), and the universities organize the program with speakers based on modules developed previously. The program was inspired by Tokyo SME Training Institute.

This program is about 9-10 weeks long (and mind you, this time, they make it almost every weekend). It is a bit tiring since you have to work Monday-Friday, and then attend trainings on Saturday and Sunday. But the good thing is, all of the participants are very excited and always full of energy. Most of them did not even take a break in the middle of the week! Salute guys!

Besides learning and getting more knowledge, skills and motivation in growing your business, you can nurture your relationship with other business owners and top management from the other companies. The program really provides us with a lot of opportunities that we may not find elsewhere.

We have just completed the third weekend. And always more and more excited for the upcoming classes. Will share more in the next posts!

One of my regrets..

One of my regrets is not reading much non-fiction books during my college years apart from the books that I have to study for my electrical engineering degree.

Now I have discovered more and more as my passion for reading grows bigger.

And kindle plays a part in helping me to finish reading the books too. I listen to my books while driving. Believe me, when you’re driving in traffic jams, kindle is a godsend. Previously I have managed to finish one whole book while driving from kuantan to kota bharu in traffic jam to attend my colleague’s wedding. (Besides listening to books, kindle helps me to get the books that are not available in Malaysian bookstores)

These are some of the books I have read. I have finished reading/listening almost all of them, and I am at second round of reading them to get the ideas presented (that I found during my first reading/listening) to be implemented in my life and our company.

If you’re in university now or freshly graduated, nurture your interest in reading. You can be surprised of how much knowledge there is in the world and how much they can help you in your life. Even if you are not fresh graduate anymore, it is not always too late to start picking up a book and read.

An evening at Kidzoona IOI City Mall, Putrajaya

Today I brought my 3 kids to Kidzoona at IOI City Mall Putrajaya for them to enjoy indoor playground. It’s been a while since we last visited an indoor playground – so I decided to bring them so they can release their energy.

Alhamdulillah since they all have grown up a bit (Adam is 7, Meena is 6 and Azmi is 5), it’s easier to manage them when going out on my own since Afiq is working today. Previously it was a nightmare if I have to manage all three of them alone at a shopping mall 😅.

Kidzoona is located in Molly Fantasy, near to the ice skating rink at IOI City Mall. Entry feea is RM18/pax for unlimited playtime during weekends and public holidays.

Kidzoona has various types of games and toys such as bouncing castle, magnetic sand and more. Suitable for younger kids but might be a little boring for kids that are more than 8 years old.

At Kidzoona the kids can also play pretend as shopowners and doctors. I remember I used to play pretend at home with diy stuff 😅

What I like about indoor playground is that I can have a rest while they play as much as they want. I don’t have to worry about them running off somewhere like during playing at outdoor playground. And hopefully once they have played their hearts out, they will sleep earlier at night (haha).

My kids love Kidzoona and the price is quite reasonable when compared to other indoor playground. It’s been 3 hours now and they still don’t want to leave yet. Haha.

Tadika Vonad Bandar Baru Bangi

Hi everyone!

Thank you for dropping by. Today while I am waiting my clothes to dry at this diy laundry dryer (due to very damp season – my clothes takes longer to dry at home), I would like to share about Tadika Vonad Bandar Baru Bangi.

We first enroll Adam at Tadika Vonad when he was almost 2 years old. We had issues with maids keep running away (haha) and decided to stop taking maids and sending them to nursery instead.

We have chosen Tadika Vonad Kajang Impiana due to its location, cleanliness and very spacious area for kids (probably the most spacious nursery we have seen). So the kids will happily run and play around.

Picture credit to Google images.

So we ended up sending all our kids Adam, Meena and Azmi to the this nursery. The teachers are good too.

They divide the kids into the groups below:

1. Baby

2. Toddler (babies that can walk) usually 1-3 years old.

3. Playschool – usually 3-4 years old.

4. Kindergarden – 4-6 years old

However when Adam turns 4, we enroll him into kindergarden and unfortunately, the kajng impiana branch does not have kindergarden yet at that point of time, therefore he was transferred to Tadika Vonad Seksyen 7, while Ameena and Azmi stayed at Tadika Vonad Kajang Impiana.

When Adam was 5 and Ameena was 4, the Kajang Impiana branch introduced kindergarden so we decided to let Ameena stayed at Kajang Impiana.

We spent 2 years traveling to both branches and boy does it consume some precious extra time 😅 so when Adam turned 6 and Ameena turned 5 and Azmi 4 (azmi now has to enroll into kindergarden as well), we decided to move Ameena and Azmi to Seksyen 7.

We saved tons of time and they are very happy at Tadika Vonad Seksyen 7! (Well they were happy too in Kajang Impiana previously).

Here are some of their pictures from last year:

Aren’t they cute?

Well from my observation, I think Tadika Vonad has managed to build a good system and provide quality education to the kids at an acceptable price. My kids love their teachers and they have very low turnover of teachers when compared to other places.

My kids learned a lot and improved a lot at Tadika Vonad. Even Azmi who at times will teat my patience due to his excessive activeness, his teachers adored him as he brings joy to the kindergarden and brightens up everyone’s day! (He’s a very friendly kiddo).

I highly recommend Tadika Vonad for those of you searching for a good nursery and kindergarten for your kids =)